http://eyeofparadox.wordpress.com/2008/05/15/the-damage-is-done/ in the ashes of ideas hides the spark of understanding Wed, 29 Jul 2009 11:03:53 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 http://eyeofparadox.wordpress.com/2008/05/15/the-damage-is-done/#comment-29 amberdarlene Sat, 28 Jun 2008 04:34:27 +0000 http://eyeofparadox.wordpress.com/?p=55#comment-29 This is really tough to comment on! There's a lot of comments and suggestions that I could make but if you're not in a position to act on any of them, than what's the point? I would only be telling you things that you already know anyway. I still think your writing is wonderful, your gift for dialog is something I've never been able to develop. If you can't be working on transition related things at this time, you can still write about it, and other things like your stories. It might be a distraction from your other issues, if nothing else. I always hate to see a gift discarded, use your gift of storytelling. This is really tough to comment on! There’s a lot of comments and suggestions that I could make but if you’re not in a position to act on any of them, than what’s the point? I would only be telling you things that you already know anyway.
I still think your writing is wonderful, your gift for dialog is something I’ve never been able to develop. If you can’t be working on transition related things at this time, you can still write about it, and other things like your stories. It might be a distraction from your other issues, if nothing else. I always hate to see a gift discarded, use your gift of storytelling.

]]> http://eyeofparadox.wordpress.com/2008/05/15/the-damage-is-done/#comment-26 eyeofparadox Fri, 16 May 2008 09:17:21 +0000 http://eyeofparadox.wordpress.com/?p=55#comment-26 I can survive the pain. I have to, but the fury it inspires is hard to choke down. I have nowhere to direct it; I can hate ignorance but I cannot hate people for simply being ignorant. People's minds are closed to so much more than the truth about gender that no one is really safe from social ignorance. I am not sure what to do, though. I am not in a position to pursue transition, and I am too honest with myself to believe I will be satisfied with the results if I did. I am a survivor though, and disfigurement is something a person can live with. I do not have to be happy with the results as long as the results are not disturbing to others. Our society is still not mature enough to know what to do with people that are distorted. Different is still frightening. I don't want to scare anyone more than I have to. For now, since it is out of my reach, I do not have to worry about it. I just have to find a way to survive. I can survive the pain. I have to, but the fury it inspires is hard to choke down. I have nowhere to direct it; I can hate ignorance but I cannot hate people for simply being ignorant. People’s minds are closed to so much more than the truth about gender that no one is really safe from social ignorance. I am not sure what to do, though. I am not in a position to pursue transition, and I am too honest with myself to believe I will be satisfied with the results if I did. I am a survivor though, and disfigurement is something a person can live with. I do not have to be happy with the results as long as the results are not disturbing to others. Our society is still not mature enough to know what to do with people that are distorted. Different is still frightening. I don’t want to scare anyone more than I have to. For now, since it is out of my reach, I do not have to worry about it. I just have to find a way to survive.

]]> http://eyeofparadox.wordpress.com/2008/05/15/the-damage-is-done/#comment-25 loriannetucson Thu, 15 May 2008 13:09:57 +0000 http://eyeofparadox.wordpress.com/?p=55#comment-25 I have endured swimming the deepest darkest trenches in my life....and realized I did not deserve the darkness but the light. As I struggle even now with the stones tied around my feet as I struggle to keep my head above water, I KNOW I must do this for ME, for MY survival. May you find yourself swimming to the surface as fast as you can. I have endured swimming the deepest darkest trenches in my life….and realized I did not deserve the darkness but the light. As I struggle even now with the stones tied around my feet as I struggle to keep my head above water, I KNOW I must do this for ME, for MY survival. May you find yourself swimming to the surface as fast as you can.

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